There’s nothing unusual about a relationship beginning to drift into autopilot after a while of dating. When things are new, it’s all exciting. You’re taken with the air of possibility and revel in getting to know your new partner. When things begin to settle down, your relationship will become different. You acquire new, deeper connections, but can lose out on some of the fun sides of relationships, such as romance. However, this isn’t inevitable. You can keep the romance in your relationship: you just have to work at it. Below, we offer a few tips that’ll put the spring back in your relationship.

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Staying Spontaneous

It’s much easier not to be spontaneous than it is to be spontaneous. You’re busy, there’s plenty of things to take care of, and your relationship is working just fine. Thus, there’s no urgency! But keeping spontaneity alive in a relationship is key to keeping the romance intact. And the beautiful thing is, the very nature of spontaneous activity requires little planning! It’s more of a mindset. Commit to doing something new and exciting every couple of weeks and life – and your romance – will stay exciting and vibrant.

All About Them

You’re a team, but you should also make sure you’re celebrating the individual, too. That means making some days all about your partner, and not just when it’s their birthday. Take a look at some gift ideas for men and treat them when they don’t expect it. It’s the little things that let them know you care. You can also do things that you know your partner likes, even if it’s something you’re not that fond of yourself; showing interest in their passions will deepen the bond you have!

Just You Time

If you have a family or an extensive social network, it might have been some time since you spent some quality time just you two and nobody else. At least once a week, you should be sharing a meal together where you reconnect and talk about what’s going on in your lives, look back over your shared memories, and discuss some of your plans for the future. It’s hard to do this when there are other people around. Drop the kids off at the grandparents and settle in with a glass of wine and a nice meal for the evening.

What Are You Saying?

It’s amazing how much is conveyed just by the types of things you’re saying. For example, if you’re fed up with work or other issues and bring it home with you, you might be killing the romance without even trying. Be conscious of the language you’re using: are you complaining, or full of life, a person who is never too far away from uttering “I love you”? Choosing to be upbeat and happy around your partner is a surefire way to keep things on track. Of course, you can’t always be happy, but when you can, make sure you’re showing it!

Remaining Your Own Person

One of the best ways to keep the romance in a relationship alive is to….stay your own person! If you’re taking care of your interests, happiness, career, etc., then you’re in a position to make the person you’re with happy. It’s when we tie up our happiness in another person that things start to break down. Also, if you’re on an individual journey as well as a joint journey, you’ll always be learning and discovering new things that you can share with your partner.

Keeping Things Light

Yes, life is serious, but it’s never as serious as some people make out. Are you making sure that you’re having enough fun as a couple? If you’re not, then now’s the time to start injecting a bit of life into your activities! You’re never too old to act with the giddiness of a child. It could be going to the playground to spend an hour on the swings, splashing around in the ocean, or hitting the fair ground. Act like your kids once in awhile: who’s going to stop you?

A Journey

Remember that you’re on a journey with your partner. And like any other journey, there’s a lot of factors that go into making it a success. You need to have strong communication skills, degrees of responsibility, shared interests, etc., and also romance! It’s just as important as anything else, so make sure you’re feeding it as you go along. It won’t just happen by itself: it’s up to you to keep the romance alive.