Love is a strange thing. We all know it’s a strange thing. Those who have experienced it, and those who haven’t, both agree. Love can seemingly make us both our best selves and our worst selves depending on how we let it affect us. Love can cause great men and women to come closer to their downfall, and it can also help people become great. From the outside looking in, it might seem to be the most irrational thing in the world, but when you’re experiencing it, nothing seems to make more sense.
The words ‘I love you’ carry so much weight. And yet, the meaning behind those three words also transcends the use of that particular language. You likely already know there are many ways to say ‘I love you.’ Depending on the situation, one way might be superior to another way. Because of the fickle nature of love, or rather, your desire to honor it as much as you can, you may be wondering how to best communicate this to ensure you and your partner are both on the same loving wavelength.
For that and more, let us try and guide you:
Daily Presence
It’s not always the case that a big, bold dinner in Paris and a stay at a five-star hotel is the true meaning of love. Of course, it can be a very healthy and memorable experience to enjoy with your partner, but if your love hinges on experiences like that, it’s likely quite thin. Your daily presence is much more important. It’s in the little things. It might be that your partner is having trouble putting on their socks in the morning due to a shoulder injury they have recently experienced, and so you do it for them. It might be that you allow them to rest after a long day of work while you clear and wash the dishes. It might be the ‘drive safe’ you say before sending them off for the day. Daily presence is what makes up the real baseline of love, which is why living together can be so powerful and is considered the default for most seriously committed couples.
Commitment
There’s nothing that says ‘I love you’ more than wishing to spend your life with someone. This is because above money, fame or any other form of value you may deem as the highest good, time is the most precious resource we all have. This is because aside from living a healthier lifestyle, there’s no apparent way to extend our time on this Earth. Spending that with someone is the ultimate compliment, and we all intrinsically know that. It might be that you realize that this person is the one, and you start looking for unique and stunning rings for engagements in order to best express that fact. Or before this process, you might start to take a natural interest in their family, and hope to be accepted by their in-laws. It might simply be that you’re willing to spend as much time with them as possible. With all that in mind, ‘I love you’ can be a tremendous concept.
An Event
Of course, despite us suggesting that the big showstopping plans you might put into action to declare your love for your partner aren’t the true pillars of love, they can certainly help you both feel good about each other. It might be that treating them to a trip abroad and then taking them to a lovely restaurant, perhaps heading on vacation with their family, or renting out a local venue for the both of your to explore in privacy, an event can help you make the most of an anniversary, valentines day, or birthday. No matter how long you spend arranging things, it’s often the thought that counts for the most part, and to this end you’ll likely find something worth celebrating.
Trust
Simply trusting someone can be the best expression of your love. Trust is a big virtue. This is why relationships who cannot trust one another, who constantly accuse the other of cheating or make it a point to trawl through their mobile phone will lead to toxic relationships and an understanding of difficulty. Being on your hardest guard against this kind of thing can never lead to anything good. This way if you’re faithful and you trust them, if something does come up to make that trust dissipate, you can leave with your dignity intact.
With this advice, you’re certain to find the best non-verbal and verbal means of communicating ‘I love you’.’
